A conversation I envision some years down the road...
Harris: Mom, why don't I have a daddy?
Me: Well, "daddy" is the name for a parent that is male. Mommy and I are both female. That is why you don't have a "daddy".
Harris: But all of my friends have a mommy AND a daddy.
Me: Not all sweetie- little Joey has 1 mommy, and, well, little Tiffany only has a daddy, and little Stephan has a grandmom and granddad. See? Not everyone has to have 1 mommy and 1 daddy.
Harris: Mom, you are so smart... and beautiful... and talented... and...
Ok, so maybe I got a little carried away with that last bit... I never really envisioned the answer to that question to be all that difficult. I figure, he will want a matter-of-fact kind of answer- most kids do. I don't really feel the need to delve into the whole emotional and dynamic world of homosexuality when my young child asks me this. The answer, as stated above, I think is very true to life and honest.
So why am I writing this post? Because I am confused. Confused about what? A children's book entitled "Animal Daddies and My Daddy". It is a simple, innocent Little Golden Book circa 1968.
When I called my mom and asked her to send a collection of books for Harris from when I was growing up, she did, gladly, and purposefully put each book into that box that she felt Harris would enjoy. I was overjoyed when that box came, and I poured over all of the fantastic books that I remembered from my childhood. Then I came across this book, and I didn't know what to make of it really. On one hand, the book is really cute and sweet. It has beautiful pictures and a warmth to it's pages that I would love to share with Harris.
But I can't get passed the "Daddy" part... It is very Daddy heavy- obviously- it is all about Daddies. So... what do I do? I don't want to confuse his young mind that is still trying to find the right words to call us. I think that it would be supremely confusing to bring about this "daddy character" when there is no such thing in Harris' life. Also, it just makes me feel a bit unsettled to read "daddy this" and "daddy that". Can anyone else share their thoughts on this? What do I do with this book?