Monday, June 30, 2008

Fwd: Shay Day

I received this as a forwarded email. Typically, I read these emails, think about them, then delete or send them on. This time, since the message nearly brought me to tears, I decided to post it as a blog. It is entitled Shay Day

I hope this is true because it makes you feel good !What would you do? make the choice. Don't look for a punch line, there isn't one. Read it anyway. My question is: Would you have made the same choice?At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:When not interfered with by outside influences,
everything nature does, is done with perfection.Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do.Where is the natural order of things in my son?'
The audience was stilled by the query.
The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'Then he told the following story:Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again.Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.However, as Shay stepped up to theplate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.The game would now be over.The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman.Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates.Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first!Run to first!'Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base.He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!'Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base.By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball . the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team.He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head.Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay'Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third!Shay, run to third!'As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!'Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'.Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!AND NOW A LITTLE FOOT NOTE TO THIS STORY:We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people hesitate.The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and workplaces.If you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren't the 'appropriate' ones to receive this type of message Well, the person who sent you this believes that we all can make a difference.We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the 'natural order of things.'So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice:Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process?A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them.You now have two choices:
1. Delete
2. Forward

May your day, be a Shay Day.

Please feel free to copy and paste this message into your own emails if you like!

Saturday, June 28, 2008

Take my breath away!

I am excited to take Harris to his first Pride tomorrow! I am a little perplexed about what the weather will be like- this morning, the forcast said sunny and 89, now the forcast says 89 with lightning storms! Hmmm....

Here is some random cuteness of Harris with his Mommy!

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Inspermination #1 Complete!

The more people envisioning fertilization and implantation the better! Woohoo!

Monday, June 23, 2008


8:15am Round up the baby bumpkin and plop him in his carseat
8:18am hit the road for the Dr's office.
8:30am hit traffic
8:40am hit traffic
8:50 am hit traffic
9:00am find the MOST ROCKING parking spot
9:15am sit in a waiting room
9:30am spread my legs for the dildo cam while amusing my little prince in his umbrella stroller
10:00am close my legs
10:20am dash upstairs to another office
10:35am get a honkin' shot in my doopa
10:45am yet another office hop
11:00am schedule a thaw for tomorrow at 3:50pm!

Guys, we are back on track!!!

Saturday, June 21, 2008

Five Years and Counting

Five years ago today, I met my lady. As a couple, we kind of have 3 anniversaries. The first is today, the day we met, then there is the would be anniversary of the day we were going to get married in Canada, and then the anniversary of our commitment ceremony. I count the would-be anniversary of the legal marriage that would have been only because both Mindi and I wear the wedding rings that were designated for that ceremony. They are engraved with our initials and the date of the wedding that never happened. We obviously celebrate the anniversary of our commitment ceremony on November 26, because it was the closest thing we have so far to a legal marriage. The biggest anniversary celebration happens on that date- November 26th, but, deep down, I feel that today, the day I met my Lady 5 years ago, is by far, the most special.

Mindi and I met online. Yes, online, through an online GLBT site that had, among other things, a personals section. I was looking for new friends with the possibility for something more. I wanted to just go out and have a good time. I had met a couple people, and was enjoying myself, but had not really met anyone that I felt any sort of connection to, friend wise or other. It was late at night, and I went online to see if anyone local was online. It was the first time that I had seen her profile. "wow, she is beautiful!" I thought to myself. I read her profile- she was very "accomplished" we could say- she had 2 bachelors degrees under her belt and was working on her Masters. I instant messaged her. No response. I figured she had looked at my profile and wasn't interested. I was about to log out and she answered me. She had been out walking Brutus (the Boston terrier). We chatted online for at least an hour. At the end of the conversation, we agreed to meet for dinner and a local concert.

It was agreed that I would meet her at her apartment. Traffic was bad and I called her to let her know that I was running late. I had butterflies. When I pulled up in front of her place, she was finishing up a walk with her pup. I ran up on the curb as I tried to park. whoops. I was nervous- give me a break...

Wow- she was even more beautiful in person. I walked into her house that night, and never really walked out. We were inseparable from the get-go.

And now, here we are, 5 years later, in a different state, living in a house that we own, snuggling and laughing with our infant son.

Here we are on our 1 MONTH anniversary, July 21st, 2003

Thursday, June 19, 2008

New Baby

ok, now don't get too excited, I am not pregnant yet, but Mindi and I do have a new project in our lives! It is a little 1982, 13 foot fiberglass travel trailer made by Scamp. I am curious to know how many of my readers know about these little fiberglass trailers, fondly referred to as "eggs". For the past few years, I have been wanting to get a little travel trailer. I like to camp and be out in nature. I wanted to be able to do that with Mindi and my family, but I found that Mindi did not share my strong desire to sleep on the ground with a small layer of nylon between me and the dirt, digging holes to use as toilets, and not showering for days... She enjoys her "creature comforts"- I can't blame her, and I do understand her view. I decided, that the only way for us to both get what we needed, and enjoy ourselves, was to be able to "camp" in a hard-sided, heatable unit, preferably with a toilet... Alas, a travel trailer was to be our answer. I researched travel trailers to no end, searching for the type of trailer that would suit us the best. I dragged her to an RV show, then I dragged her to an RV dealership so that we could tour the Tab travel trailer, which is really neat, but really small, and really expensive! She seemed to be slightly interested- slightly slightly... At one point, I was convinced that, in order for us to have a trailer that suited our family, I would have to make it. Yes folks- you read that right. I had begun drawing up plans to build my own travel trailer in the style of the old "Teardrop trailers". Then I got pregnant, and all of those plans got pushed aside.

Much to my extrememly pleasant surprise, I was offered by my uncle, via my cousin, the cute little aformentioned Scamp trailer- for free. FREE! The only catch, was that I had to pick it up. In SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA... and I live in SEATTLE... Ok, no problem! But, we only had 5 days to make the drive down to Oceanside, CA and back to Seattle, WA... with an almost 6 month old... 2,440 miles... We gave ourselves 2 days to drive down, and 3 days to drive back home. We camped in the trailer on the way home and we had a great time. We stayed the first return night at an RV park called Fawndale in Redding, CA. It was beautiful there and I wish we could have stayed longer. This is the first picture I took of the trailer hooked to our car...
If you look closely, you can see Harris' big boy car seat in the back of the Jeep- it was the first time we used his new car seat, as he has grown out of his infant seat! Gawd he is growing up quick!! Here is an example of some of the views we had on our drive through Oregon...

Here is a picture of Mindi on the Beach at Seal Rock at Beachside State Park, where we camped the second night of our trip home, and a pic of Harris enjoying the camper...

Overall, the trip went really smooth (smoothly?). Harris was a bit grumpy the second day, giving us a little run for our money, but after realizing that he was grumpy because he had just CUT HIS SECOND TOOTH, we realized that we were the LUCKY ones. Teething, I have heard, can be VERY intense for a lot of babies and parents, and all Harris gave us was a few good yelps and wails- we'll take it!

We stopped at some rest stops along the way to give the baby a little rolling time. I got a few great pictures that I love!

And, I managed to snap a couple great pics of Harris with Mommy too!

Whew! I also want to thank my cousin Sandy for helping to get the camper ready for us before we got there! She shaved off a ton of time by picking up and putting on the new tires I ordered, as well as checked and changed lightbulbs and checked the power on the Scamp! Thanks Sandy!!! By the way, She shares Harris' b-day, and here is a great picture of her and Harris when she came to Seattle 2 weeks before our trip!! She's got the touch!

We plan on doing some pretty extensive remodeling of the little Scamp. Of course, I am sure that is no surprise, being that I can't seem to leave anything alone... I MUST MODIFY! I will be sure to take lots of pictures...

Monday, June 9, 2008

Another Trip around the Diaper Track

Enough already with the friggin' diapers! Heh heh- if you don't want to read about diapers, then why are you following some lesbian mom's blog...

I am sure that you all know the story about my diapers. And, you can plainly see my support of gDiapers in the right hand column... Unfortunately, we have hit a snag. *GASP* yes, a snag in our tried and true gDiaper system. It seems that, although the cloth inserts I made were PERFECT for Harris when he was in smalls, now that he is in mediums, and has a bigger bladder, and more pee, and, because of aforementioned reason, required 1 extra layer of absorption in the form of a microfiber towel from Costco, they are not quite working out... At first, we thought that it was a leaking problem. Well, at first, it was a leaking problem. He was leaking through almost every gDiaper cloth combo we put him in. Then we realized that the leaking could be remedied by reassessing how we were putting the g's on him. Unfortunately, 1 problem remains the same. The BULK. These things are HUGE! I didn't think that that 1 extra layer would make a difference, but man, did it!

For some reason, I always thought that I would always just use g's. I never thought that I would need to look into any other solutions, because the g's were p.e.r.f.e.c.t for Harris, and I thought that they were absolutely adorable! I love the colors!! Then we hit this bump in the road, and all of a sudden, I find myself trying to slurp up info online like a sponge. I had done quite a bit of research before, but I had always resigned not to look too closely, because the diapering systems that I felt would work the best for us were the contoured/fitted/velcro kind most similar to disposables. I ruled that option out fairly early, however, because of the fact that the majority of these cute diapers ran about $17.00 a piece. I am super comfy with my 30 home made cloth inserts, and I wouldn't really want too many less than that. That would mean dishing out $510.00 for a really comfortable stash...


We broke down the other day and purchased 4 BumGenius 3.0 to try at night. Well, of course, once we put 1 on him, we couldn't help ourselves, and went through all 4 in a row... we were quietly debating over who got to change his next diaper... sick people... sick...

Apparently, we LIKE these new Bum Genius Diapers. There are a few things, however, that I do NOT like about the diapers...
1. The price
2. The HUGE Tag on the front
3. The colors *bleh*

I hate paying a ton of money for something that is not a cool color, and has a billboard sewn to the front to make sure you KNOW what brand of diapers your baby is wearing.

So, once again, I thought I would get crafty. I have never made a one size, pocket diaper before. I have never made a pattern from something in existence before. I have never applied snaps to anything before. I have never sewn velcro onto anything before. I have never sewn elastic into anything before.

I have never seen a more beautifully colored diaper and soaker, than the one I just made! BEHOLD!!!!

Teehee. I have no idea if it fits him. He is in bed for the night, and as much as I am just dying to put his cute little bum into his cute new diaper and cover, I am a good mom, and know better. Here are some comparison shots of the BumGenius and the home-made version. I can see, just by looking at this photo, that my version is bigger- that is scary...

I will try the diaper out tomorrow. I hope it fits, but I am not going to shoot myself if it does not. I will just go back to the drawing board.

*NOTE BumGenius diapers do not require diaper covers. I made a diaper cover for my version of the diaper because my version is made from a 100% cotton recycled T-shirt and fleece. It does not contain PUL, which is the waterproof material most commonly used in diapers that do not require covers. If it turns out that I decide to pursue the construction of oodles of diapers (again...) then I will make them out of PUL.

Talking about diapers gets me all excited- is that sad?

Thursday, June 5, 2008

Oh Happy Day!

I had to snap a picture of this sign that I saw today, June 6th!

Spinning Wheels

I have so much on my mind lately it is unbelievable. I feel like I can never just focus on one thing because I have a million other thoughts trying to interrupt the thought process. And then, there is the baby- who I hear stirring on the monitor as we speak, after only napping for 20 minutes... oy. Ok, they are just grunts so I am going to keep typing until he really asks for me. So, what was I saying? ...I have to pay the electric bill... whoops- another one of those pesky miscellaneous thoughts... see? they are like little flying insects! I feel like I have to FIGHT to keep my thought process straight... Hmmm. so, yeh.

I am trying to work on my crafts for my shop. I am super excited about a new hat style that I made the other day for Harris. You will have to wait in suspense for pictures, however, because the one I made was only a protocol with mediocre fabric and an atrocious seam-matching job... I am visualizing the cool hat now- I think I am going to make it out of a beige corduroy skirt that I used to wear. I am really digging this whole upcycling concept! I just put another T-Sack and baby cap in my etsy shop. I get so excited thinking about all the projects I want to do, and then overwhelmed at the same time. I would also like to figure out how to take better pictures of my products. I have spent a long time pouring over etsy files and tutorials on how to make your pictures their best, but I feel that my photos are somehow falling short. I mean, when you go onto the etsy site, the first thing you see are a set of handpicked items, all with very professional looking photos, excellent lighting, and intense colors. Why don't my photos look like that? I even made a light box to try to enhance my camera's macro ability! Ug... Anyone have any photo tips for me?

Speaking of photo tips, if you want to receive awesome photo tips and projects in your email, or if you just want to learn more about how to take great pictures, visit this awesome sight. Not only is it helpful, but it is typically VERY FUNNY as well, and they DO NOT SPAM. very important.

My desk is a disaster. My whole office is a disaster. At least my dining room is clean since I removed my Etsy Studio from the dining room table... Of course, then all that stuff just sort of got tossed in piles into the spare BR, next to my maternity clothes that I still have not put away... Sigh. I think I need to go scoop the cat box...

Oh yeh, and here is our boy, before smooshing his first banana in his fist. We did not really expect him to eat it, but we were curious to see if he would realize that it was food, and try. He thought it was a nice toy. We thought it was cute- and messy- and, well, cute :)


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