Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Friday, December 19, 2008
Harris' birthday is this coming Tuesday. I cannot believe that he will be 1 year old. But, no, wait, I can.... sort of...
I have been feverishly planning his birthday party (that is going down tomorrow!) for a little while now. I am fully aware that 1st birthday parties are really for the adults, so I have simple (100% homemade) decorations, and will be serving spiked punch. YUM! Maybe I will find the time in the next 30 years to post pictures after the party!
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Mindi went onto the sperm bank site, only to discover, that our donor was out of available sperm. I don't just mean "waiting to be restocked" I mean RETIRED. Ouch. That hurts.
So, now we are down to 3 tiny little vials of potential baby making spermatozoa, with no hope for more vials, and very little margin for error. Needless to say, we are pretty down about it. So, what do we do? Well, we decided to go see the IVF guy. We explain to him our situation, I tell him my fears of multiples, and we come to agree on a game plan. Basically, we have 1 more shot of getting pregnant via insemination. If that insemination does not work, then we will go to IVF. We will have 2 vials to potentially use for IVF. In reality, we will probably only need one, however, it is nice to have a little safety net.
Today is actually CD2 for me. Technically, if I wanted, we could try this month, but we are up in the air over where we should do this final insem- with my old Dr, or with the new Drs at the IVF clinic. I have become slightly disenchanted with my old Dr. The routine of trying to get me pregnant became a little, well, ugly at the end. When we first started trying, my Dr. seemed, well, interested, but towards the end, I was beginning to feel as if I was the one who had to make all of the decisions regarding timing, etc. It was weird. I didn't like it. It was almost as if no one ever bothered to look at my chart. I hate that.
So anyways... we are trying to make up our minds about the Dr. situation.
Whoops- baby is awake!!
Saturday, November 8, 2008
woman: You guys must be doing something bad to that baby!
woman: He was staring at me and at other people, I mean, the way he looks right into people's eyes...
woman: It's so sad...
us:** raising our eyebrows, completely perplexed**
woman: **starts walking away, looking disgusted** It is SO sad!
me:I'm sorry, I really don't understand what you mean...
woman: **shoots me a sad/dirty/angry look and bolts out of the door as If she had just witnessed me smear dog crap on my baby's face...**
Mindi and I couldn't understand for the life of us, what this woman was saying. She was obviously very upset about something that she felt that she had witnessed. We have thought about the commentary for a few hours now, and we still cannot come up with a logical explanation of what she was saying to us. I mean, if you remove the comment about how Harris looks at people in the eye (which he always does at the store), then that would lead me to believe that she was referring to the fact that we are 2 women raising a baby... And, although I obviously wouldn't agree with that kind of thinking, it would make sense to me- but it is that eye contact comment that is totally confusing us...
"You guys must be doing something bad to that baby"
-Ok, well, this is fairly straight-forward- she thinks that we are doing something bad to the baby
"He was staring at me and other people, I mean, the way he looks right into people's eyes..." (she was shaking her head at this point in disapproval)
-This was the weird comment. The only thing that I can pull from it, was that she felt that Harris was looking so intently at her and others, almost in an effort to say "help me"...
"It's so sad...it's so sad..."
-Lady, it is too bad you didn't expound on what is so sad about it...
I realize that, like the Pisces that I am, I am evaluating this to an extreme, but it something that REALLY bothered both myself and Mindi alike. I never denied that we may be faced with negative commentary about being lesbian moms, but this particular instance didn't necessarily seem like a homophobe moment...
Please, dear readers and lurkers, I would REALLY value your take on what the hell this woman was trying to say to us....
Thursday, November 6, 2008
For any other stay at home moms, work at home moms, stay at home-work at home mom wannabees, working moms, or other, you should really go check out the site SimpleMom. It is a fantastic blog about budgeting, home management, and simplifying your life! Right now, she is having an awesome giveaway for an Epson Artisan 800 Printer!
I just thought I'd share!!!
*** LINK HAS BEEN FIXED! THANKS TIFF!
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Monday, November 3, 2008
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Harris was as cute as ever on Halloween. We were lazy and dressed him in a store-bought costume. There was no denying though, that he was cute as hell in that little costume!!! We took him to the mall for "Trick or Treat at the Mall" Night. I thought that it was strange, weird, unnerving, sad to see all these little kids dressed up to go to the mall as opposed to door to door, but I suppose it might be better for a lot of them then going door to door in their neighborhoods. Mindi and I just wanted to get out and show off our little one, and being that he will not remember his first Halloween, and the fact that we would probably get some strange looks if we went door to door, we figured that the mall was a good place to go. Harris' favorite part was the play pit- yeh, you know, the one that is always there, even when it is not Halloween... I made him a cute little candy boo bag- perfectly sized for him, with a hole in the top just big enough for the moms to reach in and steal ALL of his candy... hahahaha! Mean Mommies! Thieves! THIEVES!
I am looking at the boo bag right now, sadly staring at fruity candy. I need chocolate damn it.. Really, I JUST NEED CHOCOLATE!
Friday, October 24, 2008
So, Harris and the Moms have been doing really well with the transition. During the day, Harris loves to explore his new room. Now, if He and a Mom get anywhere close to his bedroom door, he crawls hastily into the room and UP onto the bed. I am emphasizing UP, not because it is tall, but simply because you can easily see the sense of accomplishment on Harris' face when he gets his cute little butt up there. He totally knows that the new bed belongs to him, and he is embracing it.
*Side note: although changing his diapers is becoming more and more difficult everyday because of the fact that he has discovered free will and no longer wants to lay sweetly for mom, one of my favorite moments in the day happens when I am attempting to change his diaper, he flips over (much to my diapering dismay) and goes crawling across the living room, into his bedroom and up onto his bed, bare bottom to the world, and his jingle bells ringing the whole time... Maybe it is just me, but I think that it is cute as hell...
Back on track...
We felt that there was a big breakthrough when we started being able to nap him on his bed without me being in there. A few days later, we were putting him down for the night in his new bed and he sunk in like butter, but I ended up in there after his first waking at about 1:30am. Since then, we have had at least 2 (maybe 3 at this point...) nights of me sleeping in the mom bed with my wife (where else?!) and Harris sleeping in his own bed in his own room. It rocks. Our house is small, and the bedrooms are close, but even so, we still use a monitor just to make sure we are on top of things. I know that there was a little concern about safety from some of my readers. I really appreciate the feedback and concern, and I would like to address some of the concerns because maybe it will help someone else do the same thing that we are doing with our son!
Issue #1: CONTAINING THE BABY
I totally understand a parents logical desire to contain their child. It makes the most sense to contain your child when you are sleeping because, well, you are not really "present" when you are sleeping. After having a baby of my own, I realized, that containment doesn't necessarily have to be a crib, and I also realized that a crib gave me a claustrophobic feeling, and I wasn't even the one in it. I feel as though it is wholly possible to keep a child contained, while still giving them a certain freedom to move about. After some deliberation, I came to the realization that I really don't like cribs, and with proper planning and execution, a child can safely, and happily live without one. Like many other parents, we co slept with our baby, then we gave him his own little mattress on the floor so that he could have "alone time" close by. He was contained by our bedroom door, and practically never crawled anywhere in the bedroom besides his bed and ours. The door was all we needed. Now that he is in his own room, we want for him to still feel as though he can come to us in our bed if he needs to. Because he is still so young, and we hear him on the monitor, we do not leave his door wide open (he will cry for us, but stay on his new bed). When the time comes where he shows a desire to come to us (as opposed to us going to him) we will leave his door open (with a finger-slam door guard!!), and he can crawl/walk/saunter into our room. Will we still contain him somehow? Absolutely. Because of our floor plan, we will be able to put up a nighttime tension gate that will only allow him access to his door and ours. It is all in the planning.
Issue #2: KEEPING BABY UNSCATHED
Containing a baby to his own room is one thing. Making sure that He is SAFE in that room is another thing. The lassies over at Parker Martin Twin Odyssey brought up that concern in the comments for the last post. I totally understand that concern. My generic response is "pay attention". For the parents out there that are planning on attempting this (at a young age or otherwise), I suggest you sit in there and play with them, or watch them play. I found a lot of potential hazards that way, and FIXED THEM. Bolting things to the wall is a must, installing drawer latches, securing window coverings. Just make sure, that if you desire to put your baby or young child in their own room, that you are comfortable leaving your child in that room alone as you would be leaving your child in a crib.
So- is anyone else convinced? Is anyone else out there itching to try the "big switcharoo"??? C'mon LURKERS! Talk to ME!!!
Monday, October 20, 2008
I love that the futon mattress is thin enough for him to crawl up onto, and off again at will. I put some soft, quiet toys down at the foot of the bed for him, in hopes that, if he wakes before we do, he may just play quietly for a bit before sounding the bell. It worked this morning, in fact, at least, after he "tapped" me on the forehead, instead of just pushing me to get up, as soon as I opened my eyes and acknowledged him, he headed down to play and I was able to catch a few more winks!
What about you mom's and dad's out there? Has anyone else simply bypassed the crib? Did you then move your child to a big-person mattress? How was the transition for the family??
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Sunday, October 12, 2008
The pumpkin patch was great fun too! Everyone had wheelbarrows to tote their big orange finds, but no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn't get my hands on one. Luckily we had our stroller in the car, and so I just brought the base back without the seat, and viola! Our very own wheelbarrow, dirt and all...
Friday, October 10, 2008
I put about 1/3 cup raisins and 1/2 cup applesauce into my Magic Bullet, (you could use a food processor) and blended it until there were no more chunks of raisin. I stuck the mixture in a bowl. I then cooked about 1/4 cup of thick cut rolled oats, waited for the extra water to absorb a bit more, and added it to the raisin/applesauce mixture. I added a bit of cinnamon, and then added about another 1/2 cup of applesauce. I tasted the mixture, and thought it was a good mix of flavors. The consistency was good and chunky (from the oats) but the puree part was not quite as thick as Harris usually likes it, so I thickened it with a little bit of his Earth's Best Oatmeal Cereal. I am pretty jazzed. I put about 2 days worth in a glass bowl in the fridge and I froze the rest. Now, if I could just find the Peach Apricot Muesli that he loved so much... that one looks a little trickier to emulate, and I would want to do a taste test!
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Luckily, later in the night, my house looked like this, but either way, Tiff, and all others... Be prepared for chaos!!!
I just thought I'd share...
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
I am not quite sure what my look is in this picture. As you may be able to tell, I got a haircut. I think it looks super cute in this picture, but my typical "hair days" certainly do not match this picture. I guess I got really lucky... too bad I wasn't smiling....
Stuffed gorillas make everything better:
Here we are discovering that, although we thought he was working on 2 new teeth, in reality, he is working on 4 new teeth, (1 of which has broken through in between the appointment and today, making his current tooth count 5...)
Here is Harris' first finger bandaid. It was super cute. He apparently thought it was quite tasty, and despite our best efforts to make sure it stayed on his finger and out of his mouth, he won again, and I discovered it in his mouth about 30 minutes later...
Yes, that needle was huge:
Mindi did a wonderful job of soothing him after that needle stick. I was horrified when I saw it. I mean, look at that thing! It looked as if it was longer than his arm is thick!
After we got home from the pediatrician's office, I got a phone call from the pediatrician. When I first answered the phone, I thought it was a tad strange to be speaking directly to the pediatrician. He called to inform me that the Hep B shot that my son had received was actually a Hep A shot... Long story short, this particular incorrect immunization will not negatively effect him, but I was, lets say, a tad irked that the nurse had given my nine month old the wrong shot... you would have thought that she would have double checked the notes... So yeh, that HUGE ASS NEEDLE contained the wrong stuff...
On a happier note, here is a cute reminder of Harris' first trip to the pediatrician at 5 days old... what a difference!!!
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
NO, A MOTHER IS NEVER BORED.
There is always SOMETHING going on to keep her attention. take right now, for example. It is 1:10pm my time. I have been desperately trying to complete this blog post since 9am. Yes, 9am. And you know what? I may not be able to finish it before i have to abandon it again for something else... (most likely, Harris), so, forgive me if i post this darn post without finishing a sentence... I kept thinking to myself, "oh, it's ok if I only get a few sentences in right now, I will do it at his 9:30am nap..." 9:30 came and went with no nap. Finally, at 10:45, he went down for a whopping 30 minutes. By that time, my laptop had decided to spite me, and I had to do a restart, and let the dog out, and get a snack, and before I knew it? Yup- the baby was awake.
I just got the baby down to nap and made a beeline for my computer to pound out my frustrations. Mid way through, Mindi asks me to do something- no problem. A few minutes later, I have to get up and do something else... The baby just woke up... it has only been 14 minutes... Mindi went in... bless her soul, he is sleeping again...
This last bit is to EVERY MOTHER OUT THERE: If ANYONE ever asks you what you have gotten done in a day, the answer, "the baby/child is still alive" is COMPLETELY APPROPRIATE in every way, shape, and form.
Oh my God, I even found time to add pictures from our weekend wedding camping trip!!
Here is my girl, with our little cutie, in front of the Scamp:
Here, they are all dressed up at the reception:
This one is my favorite because of Harris' smooshy face. This was the morning after the ceremony. We all enjoyed oatmeal in the camper.
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Thursday, August 28, 2008
I have seriously been scaling down my house and my belongings. We just unloaded 2 nightstands, our bed frame, a ceiling fan, some outdoor speakers, a few pillows, some books, some clothes- you get the idea. I am still going strong in my quest to rid. I read a quote from the SimpleMom Blog that has inspired me to do such things:
"Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful." -William Morris
What a great quote!!
For more inspiration to free your house of the extras, try these sites that I love:
Monday, August 25, 2008
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
I was out with a friend and a friend of a friend a couple weeks ago. She has a son around the same age of mine and was going on and on about how her son hated having his teeth brushed. She told me stories of practically having to hold him down in the name of a tooth brushing. Picture bucking bronco. She was getting so worked up about it and had this look of terror on her face, like her son's teeth were already rotting out of his head, and he only had 3! She looked at me with that new mom plead in her eyes and asked "do you brush His teeth?". I said, "no, he does". "what do you mean by THAT?!" "well" I said, "I hand him a wet toothbrush and he puts It in his mouth and chews on it."
It really doesn't take anything special. Just a regular toothbrush with soft bristles and a compact head. You probably have one waiting in your linen closet. Or, if you are feeling sassy, you can get one of these. Harris LOOOVES his! It makes him giggle every time.
Monday, August 11, 2008
Sunday, August 10, 2008
After more toothbrushing, he hit the sack and we relaxed together.
Saturday morning Harris looked out of this window for close to an hour, and yes, he is wearing a pink gDiaper, and no, it was not a mistake...
But Mindi made up for the rainy day with her FANTASTIC pizza, made with Broccolini, zuchini, sauteed mushrooms, and heirloom tomatoes:
Then, to top it all off, after putting the boy to bed, I look out the window, and what do I see?
Life is full of good things.
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
I have been making an active effort to try to get out more. When I was pregnant, I oftentimes day dreamed about the hip, cool, on the go mom I would be. Somehow, I guess I kind of thought that when you joined the "mom club" you would automatically get a list sent directly to your thinker about the dates and times of the next street fair, or play group for infants, or the tide tables for the local wade pool. Not so... I realized that duh, I have to do the work of "finding the funs" if you will. I have a certain mom friend that does help me branch out a bit though. She introduced me to the Local farmers market, and the hippist wade pool in the city of Seattle. I really do mean hip by the way. Close your eyes and picture a grassy, sunny with GREAT shade patches park/wade pool combo, where there is actually a person in which there job is simply to sit there and test the water pH every hour... yeh, wow! And get this, they blow a little whistle, all the kids have to get out, she does her little test for pH and fecal microbe levels (lol) and if the levels are not quite right, they drain the whole wade pool and then fill it up again- multiples times per day... By the time we got there this afternoon, it was half filled, and filling. It was quite a sight. But I digress- not only was the pool itself hip, and the park hip, and the playground hip, but you should have seen the moms there!! There was not a single dad in sight I tell you, and at LEAST 50% of the moms were toting their tot in a Bugaboo stroller, all tanned and gussied up like they were going out with their best girlfriends for mimosas, brunch, and a shopping spree... Not to mention, they were all wearing a wrap or sling. I find it interesting how certain trends move through or around the mainstream. Although I am no expert, I can almost guarantee that before wraps and slings were "hip" they were considered "hippy". I sure am glad that that thinking is done with.
Wow, that was a total ramble fest.
So, as I mentioned, harris is crawling, and pulling up. Typically, Harris sleeps on his own little mattress (a co sleeper mattress) on the floor next to our platform bed. In the middle of the night, (around 3 or 4) when he gets up for a bottle, I feed him, change him, and then "try" to put him back on his bed, but usually he ends up in our bed. I have been trying to try harder to get him to spend the whole night in his bed, simply for personal space reasons...
Anyways, so the other night, I got up, fed him, changed him, and put him back in his bed. I was just starting to dose off, when I opened my eyes and found myself looking right into Harris' eyes. He smiled, I giggled. He wanted in. He had gone through all the trouble of standing up at my bedside (a big feat for a little guy!) to let me know that he wanted to come to bed with us. i thought it was super cute, and when he put his little hand on mine, the deal was sealed, and into the family bed he came.
Monday, July 28, 2008
Here is to hoping that everyone gets a little sleep tonight!
Saturday, July 26, 2008
Well, will wonders never cease!
Note to self: Um, whoops!
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
I will tell you though, that there is something that really gets my goat... I have seen many magazine articles and online articles about how to green your life. They talk about these great new, green products that you should get- "toss the harmful chemicals and get this fantastic green cleaner!" It is all good good good. I love it- but wait? What else are these articles proposing? That you "toss" one product in favor of another. Doesn't that seem a tad bit wasteful? The magazines should be saying- "hey, when you finish that bottle of Windex, try mixing up a spray bottle of 60/40 water and vinegar!" or, "Instead of tossing that old T-shirt in favor of Organic cotton, have Lynn whip it into a stylin' sack to reuse in a different way!" (Shameless plug).
So, stepping off of my soapbox now...
I realized that along with the introduction to solid food, came the need for stronger food schmear fighting artillery- namely, bibs. We have a few bibs for Harris. They are super cute. Yes, that is all, they are cute. They did a decent job catching little spit-ups and teething drool, but they are certainly not going to cut it to catch our Vegetarian Pot Pie. On a side note, I also realized that I was going through more dish towels since the little one started eating real food. I had a Revelation!
Dish Towel=Huge Bib
Less is more. If you are going to get more new things, at least make sure they serve at LEAST 2 functions!
Here is how to make a SIMPLE Dish towel bib to be used as either one as needed.
1. Buy some snaps *Inexpensive, and despite this belief, you DO NOT need a special tool to apply snaps. All you need is a hammer and a bobbin or spool of thread.
2. Buy some standard kitchen hand/dish towels. Buy new if you have to, but I am sure that you could find some at a thrift store.
3. Fold your towel in half (short wise not lengthwise).
4. Place a mark approximately 6 inches in at the top on both sides of the towel. This is where you will place your snaps.
5. Place the back ring of the snap. *Note snaps have 3 elements- a back ring, a male snap, and a female snap, if you will. the back ring is what secures the male or female to the fabric. To "place the back ring, you must push the teeth through the fabric. An easy way to do this without stabbing yourself is to use a pencil eraser to push the fabric over the teeth.
6. Once the back ring is set, place a male snap over the teeth. Use the hammer and bobbin (or spool) to hammer the snap down onto the teeth. Make sure that the ring and snap are completely, and evenly attached.
7. Place your other ring back and repeat the steps using the female snap. Make sure that the male and female snaps are facing each other when the towel is folded.
8. Put the bib on your child and hand him marinara sauce.